How do I ensure my alienated child is seeing the “right” therapist?

I notice a common theme among the parents that I work with…they are suffering from the trauma of being rejected by a child, and they are adamant about their child seeing a therapist.  I don’t disagree that therapy may help their child.  However, one of the biggest mistakes I see these parents make is trusting the therapist is qualified to …

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What is “splitting”, and am I guilty of it?

Splitting is prevalent among people with personality disorders, such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).  It can be simply defined as “all-or-nothing” thinking.  They view the world from two perspectives…”all good” or “all bad”.  Everything is perceived as “black” or “white” with no room for shades of grey. Relationships with those that split are rocky at best, and tend to be …

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Is how you define yourself hindering you from reuniting with your children?

Rock Thomas is captivating in this video and delivers such a powerful message…“The words that follow ‘I am’ follow you.”  Is how you define yourself hindering you from reuniting with your kids? “Parental alienation” is nothing short of a horrific form of domestic abuse.  It’s often subtle (at least to start), and it weaves its insidious tendrils throughout a family …

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What do you do when your children are adults and still refuse to speak to you?

I spend a fair bit of time online trying to help alienated parents prevent and undo “parental alienation”.  In my travels, I have seen a variety of responses to this question.  The one that saddens me most is those who take a very harsh line and suggest giving up on trying to reconnect…”they’re adults responsible for their own lives now, …

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Parental Alienation Does NOT Exist!

For decades, the experts have debated the existence of “parental alienation”, originally defined by Dr. Richard Gardner as a “mental condition in which a child (usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict divorce) allies himself or herself strongly with one parent and rejects a relationship with the other parent without legitimate justification”. Does this happen? YES! …it is …

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