coping with child rejection

Coping With Rejection From Your Child

Pathways TeamParental Rejection

Parental rejection is one of the most devastating things a parent will ever experience. Especially amid a high-conflict separation or divorce, it can feel as though you’ve lost everything. Whenever your child chooses not to be a part of your life, it is incredibly challenging not to become overwhelmed by negative emotions. Many parents describe feeling “stuck” in a state of powerlessness, as though they’ve lost all control over their situation.

Thankfully, there is hope. Through understanding, compassion, and a healthy, forward-looking mindset, parents can overcome rejection from their child and work towards rebuilding family bonds. Read on to learn more about how to cope with parental rejection, as well as how Pathways Family Coaching can support your healing journey through every step.

Understand What’s Really Happening

A child’s rejection of a parent is a complicated emotional issue caused by many factors. Whether it’s the stress of family upheaval, the malicious and manipulative behaviour of the co-parent(s), or the lingering effects of emotional trauma, there are many reasons why a child may choose to reject a parent. Before tackling the issue, rejected parents should seek to understand the root causes of their family bond obstruction, approaching their child (and their complex, nuanced response to their circumstance) with compassion and a willingness to understand what they’re feeling.

While seeking to understand the “why” behind your child’s actions, be wary of leaning on pseudo-clinical terms like “parental alienation [link to “The Problem With Parental Alienation,” Q2:4].” Even though these terms may resonate with you and validate your situation, focusing too much on a label can distract you from solving the problem and beginning your healing journey. Your family dynamic is unique; regardless of whether it fits neatly into somebody else’s definition, you can still work towards repairing your parent-child bond.

Seek Support (And Understand Its Limitations)

While working through these challenges, parents need emotional support. For many, this can take the form of support groups where parents share their experiences coping with the trauma of parental rejection. Sharing your story can be uplifting, validating, and cathartic throughout this difficult experience. Additionally, merely being around parents experiencing the same grief can help mitigate feelings of isolation, judgement, and loneliness.

While support groups are a vital part of the process for many parents, it is crucial to understand their limitations. It’s all too easy to get lost in an echo chamber of commiseration while losing focus on moving forward with real-world recovery strategies. Further, be cautious of any advice or feedback received from fellow group members. Everyone in a support group (including you) sees the world through the lens of their own trauma, clouding judgement and sometimes resulting in dangerous (if well-intentioned) advice.

Set the Stage for Reconnection

As painful as it may be, the reality is that you can’t force a meaningful reconnection with your child. Despite your best intentions, your child ultimately must be willing to welcome you back into their life. For many rejected parents, this is a painful truth to confront, often resulting in feeling “stuck” with very little control over their situation.

These feelings are more than understandable, but becoming consumed with them will hinder any progress towards rebuilding a relationship with your child. The best step forward is positioning yourself to be open to reconnection by developing compassion and understanding for your child’s emotions, as well as living a life that your child will want to be part of. It’s not easy (especially in the wake of high-conflict separation and divorce), but it’s ultimately the path towards meaningful, lasting reconnection with your child.

A Pathway Forward Through Parental Rejection

Pathways Family Coaching offers a library of online courses and resources for healing and strengthening your relationship with your child. We help you to take back control of your situation through courses that educate and empower, guiding you through every phase of alienation, rejection, and reconnection.

The Alienation Code teaches you the ins-and-outs of family bond obstruction, including understanding your child’s perspective and how your mindset can positively or negatively impact the parent-child relationship. This five-module course covers the causes of “parental alienation,” the importance of repairing your parent-child bond, and the mindset shift required to overcome parental rejection.

Trapped in Trauma is our newest course offering, focused on demystifying the impact of trauma on your family. Available on its own or bundled with The Alienation Code, Trapped in Trauma will educate you on the emotional and neurological effects of trauma and alienation while equipping you with the tools and practices to overcome trauma through compassion and understanding.

For those ready to take the next step in their healing journey, Ready to Reconnect gives knowledge and insight into the emotional processes behind parental rejection in the wake of high-conflict separation and divorce. Consisting of 12 fully-customized online modules, Ready to Reconnect empowers you to rebuild your relationship with your child through real-world insight and practical strategy.

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Book an in-person consultation today, or contact us to learn more about Pathways Family Coaching’s comprehensive resources.

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