benefits of external coaches during family reunification

Exploring the  Benefits of External Coaches During Family Reunification Therapy

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If your parent-child relationship has suffered a significant disconnect due to parental alienation and/or a high-conflict separation, you may benefit from (or be ordered to pursue) family reunification therapy. 


Reunification therapy is designed to, as the name suggests, mend the divide between parent and child(ren) and requires careful navigation as well as empathy, emotional resilience, and strategic intervention. While some may be lucky enough to find a dedicated therapist with substantial experience in reunification, it remains an evolving practice, meaning that it can often be tricky to navigate for all parties involved. Partnering with an external reunification coach, like the team at Pathways Family Coaching, can make it much easier to experience the potential benefits of reunification therapy, as well as set a solid path forward for the future. 


Below, we’ll take a closer look at the benefits of using a reunification coach, as well as partnering with the Pathways team. Read on to learn more!

Learn more: what is Parental Alienation?



Objectivity and Neutrality


While your appointed or selected therapist should always operate from an unbiased, objective perspective, an external reunification coach can help you do the same. As a third party, a reunification coach is less likely to be unintentionally influenced by a family’s history or dynamics and will be equipped to act as a fair mediator with everyone’s interests in mind (especially your children’s). By maintaining an objective perspective, coaches can help parents learn how to stay calm and appropriately engaged in dedicated therapy sessions, particularly in cases where the other party may be less inclined to behave in a conducive manner. 


Specialized Knowledge


As we mentioned, reunification therapy is an evolving practice amongst licensed practitioners, and while there may be many skilled therapists, a diverse clientele often means they have less time to dedicate to the specific ins and outs that help make reunification as successful as possible. Reunification coaches have the luxury of applying their professional focus and skillset to alienation and high-conflict family dynamics, which offers you access to valuable insights that can help aid the process and give you peace of mind throughout. A coach helps to ensure that reunification has the highest likelihood of success and that all parties are prepared prior to going into dedicated sessions. 


Read more: Healing Alienation with Parental Reunification


Structured Approach


Family reunification requires a structured and strategic approach to address the deep-rooted issues that led to separation. While your therapist should provide a hands-on framework for participants,  external coaches offer additional structure in the form of helping to define realistic goals, filling gaps, creating action plans, and monitoring progress along the way so you have the chance to course-correct where necessary.



Emotional Support and Guidance


High-conflict divorces are complex and take an emotional toll on everyone. While the goal of reunification therapy is predominantly to reestablish parental/child relationships, it goes without saying that adults both need and deserve emotional support throughout the entire process. Confronting difficult histories and the present is difficult, but with the help of a trained coach, you can learn how to cope, be encouraged to move forward in the best manner possible (regardless of what your co-parent may do throughout the process), and receive the empathy and support you need to succeed. 



Facilitating Effective Communication


Effective communication is critical in reunification therapy, but parents often find it difficult to know ‘what to say’ or how to adequately express themselves for the benefit of their child(ren) as well as their dedicated therapist. Reunification coaches teach you how to communicate effectively using tools like active listening, empathy, and appropriate methods of emotional expression. Where necessary, coaches can also help mediate developing conflicts before they have a chance to fester and grow into larger issues. 



Long-Term Success and Stability


The ultimate goal of family reunification therapy is to achieve long-term success and stability in family relationships. High-conflict divorces and separations often leave children feeling vulnerable and anxious, and interference by narcissistic or malicious parents can seriously damage relationships without intervention. Both family reunification therapy and reunification coaches recognize how important it is to create a sustainable foundation that helps prevent reoccurrences in the future. Coaches help equip family members with the skills and tools needed to maintain healthy relationships long after the therapy ends, restoring peace and balance wherever possible. 


Reunification Coaching with Pathways Family Coaching


Pathways Family Coaching is here to help families create the best path forward before, during and after reunification therapy.  We offer a variety of online courses tailored to help parents make the most of reunification therapy and maintain strong relationships indefinitely, including:

  • Ready to Reconnect is specifically designed to prepare you for reunification therapy and empower you to understand your role in reunification and support your child’s journey.
  • The Alienation Code can help you understand why you are being disconnected from your child so you can better combat it.
  • Pathways Through Conflict will help you develop the conflict management skills you need to handle your divorce well. It includes additional information on reunification therapy options.

Request a free consultation or contact us to learn more.

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